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Speak Your Calm

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Lesson Plan

Speak Your Calm

Celebrate the student’s progress, solidify their self-regulation skills, and set a sustainable plan for continued use of “I” statements and coping strategies.

Ending with reflection and celebration boosts confidence, reinforces learned skills, and ensures the student has a clear, maintainable plan for future self-regulation.

Audience

8th Grade Student with ODD

Time

30 minutes

Approach

Reflect, celebrate, and plan next steps

Materials

Stress Ball, Mini Whiteboard, Sticker or small reward, and Personal Regulation Blueprint Template

Prep

Teacher Preparation

10 minutes

  • Review the student’s regulation blueprint from Session 9 on the I-Statement Worksheet.
  • Prepare stickers or a small reward for celebration.
  • Set up a comfortable, private space with the stress ball and mini whiteboard.

Step 1

Session 10: Celebrating Mastery & Planning Next Steps

30 minutes

  • Warm-Up Reflection (5 minutes)
    • Prompt: “Think back to where you started in Session 1—what’s the biggest change you’ve noticed?”
    • Student shares one major win and one strategy that feels most helpful.
  • Showcase Regulation Blueprint (5 minutes)
    • Have the student present their compact blueprint: trigger signs → “I” statement → coping tool → help signal.
    • Use the mini whiteboard to visually map each step.
  • Self-Assessment & Celebration (10 minutes)
    • Provide a simple 5-point scale self-assessment: confidence using words, coping tool success, comfort seeking help.
    • Student marks their ratings and explains one area of strength.
    • Award a sticker or small reward for successful completion of the program.
  • Plan for Maintenance (7 minutes)
    • Set two specific ongoing goals, e.g., “Use deep breathing at least once per week” and “Tell a teacher when I feel stuck.”
    • Decide on check-in frequency: weekly brief chats or stress ball signals.
    • Identify supports: who to talk to (teacher, parent, counselor) and where to keep the blueprint (locker, binder).
  • Closing Affirmation (3 minutes)
    • Offer a personalized affirmation: “You’ve done amazing work. I’m proud of your progress and believe in your plan.”
    • Remind the student: “This isn’t the end—these skills are yours to use whenever you need them.”
    • End with a stress ball squeeze together as a ‘seal of success.’
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Activity

Emotion Explorer Activity

Objective: Help the student recognize, sort, and label feelings of anger and frustration using visual cues, then reflect on personal experiences.

Materials:

Time: 10 minutes

Instructions:

  1. Sorting Emotions (3 minutes)
    • Lay out all the Emotion Cards face down.
    • Ask the student to flip each card and place it into one of three piles: Angry, Frustrated, or Other.
    • Offer a short break if the student shows signs of overwhelm.
  2. Reflection with Three Cards (4 minutes)
    • From the Angry pile, have the student choose three cards.
    • For each card, ask:
      • “Can you describe a time when you felt this way?”
      • Record the student’s response on chart paper or in a notebook.
  3. Sentence Completion (3 minutes)
    • Show the student the prompt: “When I feel angry, I notice…”
    • Have the student finish the sentence orally and then write it down (or you write it if needed).


  4. Debrief
    • Read the recorded statements together.
    • Praise the student for identifying and labeling emotions.
    • Remind them that noticing feelings is the first step to using words instead of actions.
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Game

Emotion Charades

Objective:
Practice recognizing and expressing emotions nonverbally, build empathy by observing body cues, and reinforce the language of feelings.

Materials:

Time: 10–15 minutes


Instructions

  1. Prepare the Deck (1 minute)
  2. Take Turns Acting (8–10 minutes)
    • Student and teacher alternate roles: one person draws a card and silently acts out the emotion without speaking or making sounds, while the other person guesses.
    • Allow up to 30 seconds per turn; use a timer if helpful.
    • After a correct guess (or if time runs out), reveal the card and confirm the emotion.
  3. Score & Encourage
    • Award 1 point for each correct guess. Celebrate correct guesses with positive reinforcement.
    • If the student feels stuck, offer a single hint (e.g., “Think about your face,” or “Notice how your shoulders move”).
  4. Debrief After Each RoundReflection Prompt for Student:
    “When I acted this emotion, I noticed…”


    • Ask the actor:
      • “What did you notice in your body when you acted this emotion?”
    • Ask the guesser:
      • “What clues helped you figure out the feeling?”
  5. Variation (Optional)
    • Speed Round: Reduce acting time to 15 seconds to increase challenge.
    • Role Reversal: Student describes what the actor did (post-charade) using an “I” statement: “I saw you ___ when you felt ___.”

Accommodation & Support

  • If the student becomes frustrated or overwhelmed, allow them to pass and select a new card.
  • Keep a stress ball on hand for brief sensory breaks between turns.
  • Use consistent praise and positive reinforcement aligned with the behavior plan.

Follow-Up Discussion:

  • After the game, talk about how recognizing nonverbal cues can help us understand our classmates and teachers.
  • Set a goal: “This week, I will notice when someone else looks frustrated and ask them ‘Are you OK?’ with an ‘I’ statement.”
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Discussion

Frustration Talk

Objective:
Guide the student to reflect on using new skills—labeling emotions, “I” statements, and coping strategies—in real situations. Help them generalize to classroom and home settings.

Time: 10–15 minutes
Materials:


1. Warm-Up Check-In (2 minutes)

  • Prompt: “Since our last session, have you used an ‘I’ statement or a coping strategy? Tell me about one time.”
  • Support: If needed, show the I-Statement Worksheet or the spinner as a reminder.

Student Response:


2. Scenario Reflection (5 minutes)

  1. Shuffle the Frustration Scenario Cards and draw one.
  2. Read it aloud together.
  3. Ask:
    • “What would you feel in this situation?”
    • “How could you say an ‘I’ statement here?”
    • “Which coping strategy might help you calm down?”

Write their ideas on a mini whiteboard or chart.

Example Prompts:

  • “I feel _____ when _____ because _____.”
  • “I could try deep breathing because _____.”

Student Drafts:





3. Generalization Discussion (4 minutes)

  • Ask:
    1. “Can you think of a time in our class or at home when you felt that way?”
    2. “What stopped you from using your words or strategies then?”
    3. “How could you remind yourself next time?”

Use these follow-ups as needed:

  • “What is a simple signal you could give yourself or me?”
  • “Where will you keep this reminder? (desk, locker, backpack?)”

Student Plans:










4. Wrap-Up and Goal Setting (2–3 minutes)

  1. Summarize the student’s “I” statement and chosen coping strategy.
  2. Agree on one small goal for the week, e.g., “Use deep breathing when I feel my shoulders tighten.”
  3. Decide on a check-in signal (thumbs-up, stress ball squeeze, etc.).

Affirmation:
“Great work naming your feelings and picking a plan. I believe you can use these words and tools next time you get upset!”


Next Steps:

  • Teacher to observe and give positive reinforcement when the student uses their signal or strategy.
  • Brief check-in at the end of each day this week.
  • Revisit adjustments in next session if needed.
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