Respect Reflection Prompts

1. In your own words, what does respect mean to you? Why is it important?
   
   
   
2. Describe a specific moment recently when you felt you demonstrated respect towards someone. What did you do? How did it make you feel?
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
3. Think of a time you struggled to act respectfully. What triggered your response? What thoughts or feelings were you experiencing?
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
4. Identify any patterns or common triggers that lead you to act disrespectfully. How might recognizing these triggers help you in the future?
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
5. Review the self-management strategies from the Respect Roadmap. Which strategy resonates most with you? How could you apply it the next time you feel upset?
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
6. Imagine a future situation where you face disrespect or frustration again. What steps will you take to respond with respect? Be as detailed as possible.
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
7. What commitment will you make to yourself to practice respectful behavior? Write a clear, actionable statement (you might later transfer this to your Commitment Card).
   
   
   
   
   
   

One-on-One Coaching Script

Purpose: Guide a supportive conversation around the student’s reflections from the Respect Reflection Prompts and help them choose self-management strategies.

1. Opening the Conversation (1 minute)

Teacher: “Thank you for taking the time to reflect so honestly. Everything we talk about here stays between us, and my goal is to help you build on your strengths and feel confident handling challenging moments.”

• Pause and make eye contact.
• Nod to show you’re listening.

2. Exploring Respectful Moments (2 minutes)

Teacher: “Let’s start with the positive. In question 2 of your reflection, you described a time you showed respect. Can you tell me more about what happened and how you felt in that moment?”

Possible follow-up prompts if needed:

• “What did you notice about how the other person reacted?”
• “Which part of that behavior felt most natural for you?”

Teacher: “I appreciate hearing how that went. You mentioned you felt [student’s feeling word]. That shows you have the ability to make a positive choice even when it matters.”

3. Discussing Challenging Moments (2 minutes)

Teacher: “Now let’s look at question 3, when you struggled to act respectfully. You wrote that the trigger was [student’s trigger]. What thoughts or feelings were coming up in that moment?”

Possible follow-up prompts:

• “What did you notice happening in your body or mind?”
• “If you could go back, what might you do differently?”

Teacher: “Noticing those feelings is a great first step. That awareness gives us a chance to choose a different response next time.”

4. Identifying Patterns and Strategies (1.5 minutes)

Teacher: “I see a pattern: stress from [student’s trigger] tends to push you toward that reaction. Let’s find a way to pause that cycle.”

Teacher: “On our Respect Roadmap, we listed strategies like Pause & Breathe, Reframe Thoughts, Use ‘I’ Statements, and Take a Short Break. Which of these feels like it would help you the most?”

• Wait for student to choose one.

Teacher: “Great choice. How would you use [student’s chosen strategy] the next time you feel that trigger?”

Possible prompt:

• “Can you talk me through what you’d say or do first?”

5. Confirming a Plan (0.5 minute)

Teacher: “Let’s put it all together. When you notice [student’s trigger], you will [student’s plan in their own words]. Does that sound clear and doable?”

Teacher: “I’m confident you can try this out. It might feel strange at first, but that’s okay—new habits take practice.”

6. Transition to Commitment (0.5 minute)

Teacher: “Now that you have a plan, let’s make it official on your Commitment Card. Write one clear statement, like ‘I will pause and take three deep breaths before responding when I feel frustrated.’”

Teacher: “You’ve done important work today. I look forward to hearing how this goes in our next check-in.”

End of Script

Commitment Card

Student Name: ___________________________ Date: ____________

Commitment Statement:
I commit to:

Action Steps (when I notice my triggers):

1. _______________________________
   
   
   
2. _______________________________
   
   
   
3. _______________________________
   
   
   

Teacher Check-In Date: ____________

Student Signature: ____________________