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Finding Your Calm

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Lesson Plan

Finding Your Calm

Students will identify when they feel sad, angry, or frustrated and practice using at least one coping skill—deep breathing, positive self-talk, or a sensory break—to stay calm and exhibit positive behavior.

Helping students recognize and manage negative emotions fosters self-regulation, reduces classroom disruptions, and builds lifelong emotional resilience to support learning and positive peer interactions.

Audience

2nd Grade

Time

30 minutes

Approach

Model, practice, and reflect on coping skills.

Materials

Prep

Review Materials & Set Up Calm Space

10 minutes

Step 1

1. Introduction & Emotion Identification

5 minutes

  • Greet the student and explain the goal: to notice feelings and use tools to stay calm
  • Show the Emotion Wheel Chart and name common negative feelings
  • Ask the student to point out how they feel today and model labeling: “I feel frustrated.”

Step 2

2. Modeling Coping Skills

7 minutes

  • Choose a feeling on the chart and demonstrate a coping skill from the Coping Skills Cards
  • Example: show deep breathing using the Deep Breathing Guide: inhale 4, hold 2, exhale 6
  • Explain why this helps calm the body and mind

Step 3

3. Guided Practice

10 minutes

  • Invite the student to select a feeling and pick a coping skill card
  • Practice the skill together: use the timer on the Sensory Break Timer or follow the breathing steps
  • Provide positive feedback and prompt the student to notice changes in their body

Step 4

4. Reflection & Goal Setting

8 minutes

  • Ask the student how they felt before and after using the skill
  • Help the student choose one coping strategy to remember for next time
  • Write a simple goal: “When I feel angry, I will take 5 deep breaths.”
  • Praise effort and encourage use of the calm space during emotion spikes
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Slide Deck

Finding Your Calm

Recognize your feelings and learn how to stay calm.

Welcome the student and explain that today’s session is all about noticing our feelings and learning ways to calm down. Emphasize that this is a safe space to practice and build new skills.

Today's Goal

  1. Identify a feeling
  2. Choose and use a coping skill

Review the goal for today. Point out that by the end of the session the student will be able to name a feeling and use at least one coping skill to calm down.

How Are You Feeling?

Look at the Emotion Wheel: Emotion Wheel Chart

Show the Emotion Wheel Chart in your calm corner. Name common feelings (happy, sad, angry, frustrated). Ask the student to point to how they feel today and model, “I feel frustrated.”

Deep Breathing

Deep Breathing Steps:

  • Inhale 4 seconds
  • Hold 2 seconds
  • Exhale 6 seconds

Deep Breathing Guide

Introduce deep breathing using the guide. Demonstrate inhaling for 4 seconds, holding for 2 seconds, then exhaling for 6 seconds. Count out loud so the student can follow along.

Other Coping Skills

– Positive self-talk
– Sensory break with timer
– Stress ball or fidget spinner

Coping Skills Cards
Sensory Break Timer

Present the Coping Skills Cards and sensory tools (stress ball, fidget spinner). Explain positive self-talk (e.g., “I can handle this”). Show the Sensory Break Timer and describe how to use it.

Practice & Reflect

Try your chosen skill now.
Then think: How did you feel before? How do you feel now?

Invite the student to choose a feeling and select a coping skill. Practice together: either follow the breathing steps or start the sensory break timer. Afterward, ask how they felt before and after using the skill.

Your Calm Plan

When I feel ____, I will ____.

Help the student write or say a simple calm plan. Fill in: “When I feel ____, I will ____.” Encourage them to keep this plan in mind.

Great Job!

Remember: You have the tools to stay calm.

Congratulate the student on their effort. Reinforce that they can use these tools anytime they need to feel calm. Close with positive encouragement.

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Worksheet

Emotion Identification Worksheet

Use the Emotion Wheel Chart to help you complete the sections below.

1. Name the Feeling

Look at the wheel and choose three different negative feelings you might have at school. Write each feeling below and draw a small face that shows how you look when you feel that way.

  1. Feeling: ____________________________
    (Draw a face here)





  2. Feeling: ____________________________
    (Draw a face here)





  3. Feeling: ____________________________
    (Draw a face here)





2. Match the Scenario to Your Feeling and Coping Skill

Read each scenario, write the emotion you would feel, and then choose one coping skill (from the Coping Skills Cards, Deep Breathing Guide, or sensory tools) you could use to calm down.

A. Your friend will not let you play with their game.
Emotion: ________________________
Coping Skill I’ll Use: ________________________




B. You lost your homework folder and can’t find it.
Emotion: ________________________
Coping Skill I’ll Use: ________________________




C. You have to go to the nurse but you don’t want to leave recess.
Emotion: ________________________
Coping Skill I’ll Use: ________________________




3. Practice Deep Breathing

Use the steps on the Deep Breathing Guide. Then draw or write how your body feels before and after you try deep breathing.

Before Deep Breathing:





After Deep Breathing:







4. Create Your Calm Plan

When you notice a big feeling, it helps to have a plan ready. Finish this sentence and keep it somewhere you can see it.

When I feel ____________________, I will ____________________.







Great work! Remember you can also take a break with the Sensory Break Timer or use a stress ball whenever you need a quick calm moment.

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Answer Key

Emotion Identification Answer Key

Below are suggested responses and teacher notes for each section of the worksheet. Student answers may vary, so use these to guide scoring and conferencing.


1. Name the Feeling

Students choose three negative feelings and draw faces to match. Common correct choices include: sad, angry, and frustrated.

Suggested student responses:

  1. Feeling: Sad
    • Face: frown, downturned eyes
    Teacher note: Look for a teardrop or downturned mouth to show sadness.
  2. Feeling: Angry
    • Face: furrowed brows, open mouth or gritted teeth
    Teacher note: Notice red cheeks or steam lines—students often exaggerate angry expressions.
  3. Feeling: Frustrated
    • Face: scrunched eyebrows, tight lips
    Teacher note: Frustration can look like anger but with more tension in the shoulders or hands.

Scoring: Award full credit when the emotion label matches the facial expression. Partial credit if the drawing shows the feeling but the word is slightly off (e.g., “mad” instead of “angry”).


2. Match the Scenario to Your Feeling and Coping Skill

Below are example answers. Good responses clearly link the scenario’s trigger to an emotion and then to one of the coping tools.

ScenarioEmotionCoping SkillTeacher Explanation
A. Your friend will not let you play with their game.Frustrated or AngryDeep Breathing (inhale–hold–exhale)Deep breathing helps lower physical tension when you feel left out or upset.
B. You lost your homework folder and can’t find it.Worried or AnxiousPositive Self-Talk (“I can find it!”)Encourages a growth mindset and reduces panic about the missing folder.
C. You have to go to the nurse but don’t want to leave recess.Disappointed or UpsetSensory Break (use timer & fidget)A short movement or sensory activity shifts attention and calms disappointment.

Scoring: Look for logical matches. If a student chooses a different coping skill but explains it makes sense (e.g., using a stress ball for scenario B), give credit.


3. Practice Deep Breathing

Students describe before and after feelings. Sample responses:

Before Deep Breathing:

  • Heart beating fast
  • Shoulders tense
  • Feeling hot or shaky

After Deep Breathing:

  • Breathing slower
  • Muscles relaxed
  • Feeling calmer and more focused

Teacher Note: Accept any physical or emotional words that show a change (e.g., “less worried,” “more ready to work”).


4. Create Your Calm Plan

A simple “When I feel…, I will…” statement. Examples:

When I feel angry, I will take 5 deep breaths.
When I feel worried, I will say, ‘I can handle this!’.
When I feel upset, I will use my stress ball for one minute.

Scoring: Give full credit if the plan pairs a negative feeling with one of the taught strategies. Encourage neat handwriting or a student-drawn reminder symbol.


Overall Scoring Guide:

  • Section 1: 3 points (1 per feeling & matching face)
  • Section 2: 3 points (1 per scenario matching)
  • Section 3: 2 points (accurate before/after descriptions)
  • Section 4: 2 points (logical calm plan)

Total: 10 points

Use this key to celebrate student success and identify which coping skills may need more practice. Encourage students to keep their calm plans where they can see them!

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Reading

Emotion Wheel Chart

Use this wheel to help you name how you feel. Point to the word or section that best matches your emotion today. Then you can choose a coping skill that fits!

•———————•
/ HAPPY
| joyful, |
| excited, |
| proud |
\ /
• •
/ CALM
| peaceful, |
| relaxed, |
| content |
\ /
• •
/ SAD
| lonely, |
| disappointed|
| unhappy |
\ /
• •
/ FRUSTRATED
| annoyed, |
| stuck, |
| irritated |
\ /
• •
/ ANGRY
| mad, |
| furious, |
| cross |
\ /
• •
/ WORRIED
| nervous, |
| anxious, |
| scared |
\ /
•———————•

Tip: When you notice a big feeling, say its name out loud. Then choose a coping skill—like deep breathing or positive self-talk—to help you calm down.

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Activity

Coping Skills Cards

Print, cut, and laminate these four simple cards. Each card shows a quick strategy you can use anytime you notice a big feeling.


Card 1: Deep Breathing 🧘

What to Do: Follow the steps below to calm your body.

  1. Inhale slowly for 4 seconds
  2. Hold your breath for 2 seconds
  3. Exhale slowly for 6 seconds

Link: Deep Breathing Guide




Card 2: Positive Self-Talk 🗣️

What to Do: Use kind, encouraging words to calm your mind.

  • Say: “I can handle this.”
  • Say: “I am in control of my feelings.”
  • Say: “I’ll try my best.”



Card 3: Sensory Break ⏱️

What to Do: Take a short break to reset.

  1. Grab a stress ball or fidget spinner 🤲
  2. Set the Sensory Break Timer for 1–2 minutes
  3. Squeeze, spin, or move until the timer rings



Card 4: Mindful Counting 🔢

What to Do: Shift your focus by counting.

  • Slowly count backward from 10 to 1
  • Or count up from 1 to 20, noticing each number
  • Breathe in on one number, breathe out on the next



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Reading

Deep Breathing Guide

Deep breathing helps calm your body and mind. It slows down your heart and gives you more control over big feelings. Follow these simple steps whenever you feel upset or frustrated:

  1. Pretend to smell a flower 🌸 – inhale slowly through your nose for 4 seconds.
  2. Hold the breath for 2 seconds, like you’re holding that nice scent in.
  3. Blow out a candle 🕯️ – exhale slowly through your mouth for 6 seconds.

Tip: Place one hand on your belly and one on your chest. When you breathe deeply, your belly should rise more than your chest. That means you’re filling your lungs fully.

Practice this routine three times and notice how your body feels calmer each time. Remember, you can use this breathing trick anytime you feel a big feeling. You are in control of your breath!

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Activity

Sensory Break Timer

Use this timer to take a quick, focused sensory break that helps reset your body and mind. Follow the steps below and watch the visual cues so you know when your break is over.

What You Need

  • A timer (analog, digital, sand timer, or timer app)
  • A stress ball, fidget spinner, or other small sensory tool

Setting Up Your Timer

  1. Choose how long you’d like your break to last—1 or 2 minutes is ideal for second graders.
  2. If you have an analog timer (like a kitchen timer), turn the dial to 1–2 minutes.
  3. If you have a digital timer or timer app, press the plus/minus buttons or touch the screen to set 00:01:00 or 00:02:00.
  4. If you have a sand timer, pick the one labeled 1 min or 2 min.

Visual Cues to Watch

  • Analog/Digital – The numbers will count down until they reach zero.
  • Sand Timer – Watch the sand slide from top to bottom; when it’s all gone, your break is finished.
  • Timer App – Some apps glow green when the break starts and flash red when time’s up.

How to Take Your Sensory Break

  1. Start the timer and grab your sensory tool.
  2. Focus on squeezing the stress ball or spinning the fidget spinner at a steady pace.
  3. Watch the timer’s visual cue—numbers changing, sand falling, or color shifting.
  4. Keep going until the timer dings, buzzes, or the sand runs out.

Why It Works

A short, timed sensory activity gives your brain something simple to focus on. It:

  • Redirects big feelings into a calm movement
  • Releases physical tension through your hands
  • Signals to your body that it’s okay to relax

When the timer ends, take a deep breath and notice how you feel—ready to return to learning!




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