Lesson Plan
Feelings & Support
Students will be able to identify strong feelings, recognize signals that feelings are becoming troublesome, and understand the importance of seeking help and personal support from trusted adults.
This lesson helps students develop emotional literacy and coping strategies, fostering a healthy approach to mental well-being and problem-solving. It teaches them that experiencing strong feelings is normal and that seeking support is a positive and essential step in navigating life's challenges.
Audience
4th Grade Students
Time
30 minutes
Approach
Through story analysis, guided discussion, and personal reflection.
Materials
Image 4A: Worried Child, Image 4B: Ask for Help, Image 4C: Support, Image 4D: Signals for Help, Kyra–Someone Like You Reading Sheet, and My Support Network Worksheet
Prep
Preparation
10 minutes
- Review the Feelings & Support Lesson Plan and all generated materials.
- Print copies of the Kyra–Someone Like You Reading Sheet (or ensure students have access to page 6 of their Student Workbook).
- Print copies of the My Support Network Worksheet.
- Ensure projector or smartboard is ready to display images and the Feelings & Support Slide Deck.
Step 1
Warm-Up: What Do You See?
3 minutes
- Show Image 4A: Worried Child.
* Ask: "Look at this picture. What do you see?" (Allow students to share observations.)
* Summarize: "The child in this picture looks worried, sad, or even mad. She is having some strong feelings. There might be many different things going on that are making her feel this way. Let’s read a story about her and find out more."
Step 2
Reading: Kyra–Someone Like You
7 minutes
- Explain: "We’re going to read a story about Kyra–someone like you!"
* Distribute the Kyra–Someone Like You Reading Sheet (or have students turn to page 6 of the Student Workbook). Have students read the story silently and then read aloud as a class.
* Survey: "Raise your hand if you think Kyra is like many fourth graders."
* Summarize: "Most fourth graders have friends. They have favorite activities and subjects in school. They have families and people they love, trust and care about. They experience both ups and downs."
Step 3
Activity: What is Kyra Feeling?
5 minutes
- Instruct: "Now that we’ve read Kyra’s story, I want you to answer question 1 at the end of the story: What is Kyra feeling and why?"
* Allow time for students to write their answer.
* Ask & Discuss: "What are some of the strong feelings Kyra is having?"
* Summarize: "Kyra feels upset and angry about what’s going on with her parents. She feels sad her grandfather is in the hospital. She misses him and is worried about him."
Step 4
Understanding Troublesome Feelings
5 minutes
- Explain: "Life brings changes and challenges. It’s part of growing up. Sometimes feelings can be very strong. Strong feelings, such as sadness or anger, are normal. Everyone has them at certain times. Often these feelings are a reaction to losing something or someone you care about. They can be difficult to experience, but they are part of life. But sometimes strong feelings can become troublesome. This means they can cause trouble if the person doesn’t get help to deal with them. Troublesome feelings can be confusing or make a person act differently or in ways that aren’t healthy."
* Ask & Discuss: "What signals show that Kyra’s strong feelings have become troublesome?"
* Summarize: "She has felt sad and angry for quite a while. Her eating habits have changed. She is staying away from friends and school and sleeping a lot."
* Ask & Discuss: "Why is Kyra hiding her feelings?"
* Summarize: "Sometimes kids are embarrassed or confused by strong feelings. They may not want others to ask them questions. They may not know how or whom to ask for help, or what kind of help they need."
* Ask & Discuss: "Who might notice that Kyra needs help?"
* Summarize: "Family, friends, or teachers may notice. The most important person who should notice something’s wrong is Kyra herself."
Step 5
Activity: What Should Kyra Do?
5 minutes
- Show Image 4B: Ask for Help.
* Explain: "No one knows better than you when something’s wrong, or when you need someone to talk to or ask for help or advice. If you need help, try to ask for it!"
* Instruct: "Now I want you to answer question 2 at the end of the Kyra–Someone Like You Reading Sheet: What should Kyra do and why?"
* Allow time for students to write their answer. Allow a few volunteers to share their ideas.
* Emphasize: Kyra should get help from an adult she trusts because it is important to talk about troublesome feelings with someone who can help.
* Summarize: "When you have troublesome feelings, it is very important to talk about it with a parent or other trusted adult. Feelings are a natural part of life. It’s also part of life to help each other be safe and healthy. If you notice that a friend or family member needs help with troublesome feelings, tell an adult you trust."
* (Note: If your school has one, remind students that the school counselor can be a good person to talk to about troublesome feelings.)
Step 6
Wrap-Up: Personal Support
5 minutes
- Show Image 4C: Support.
* Ask: "What does this word say? What does it mean to support someone?"
* Summarize: "Giving support means being there for someone–offering them help, comfort, advice, confidence, or courage. Sometimes it means helping someone find answers to problems. Other times it means just listening."
* Ask & Discuss: "What do you think it means to have personal support?"
* Summarize: "Having personal support means you know people you can call on for help when you need it."
* Explain: "Everyone has tough times in life. And everyone should have personal support. If you have personal support, you don’t have to go through tough times by yourself. You’re going to think about the kinds of things that are signals that you could use personal support."
* Show Image 4D: Signals for Help.
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Slide Deck
Feelings & Support
It's Okay to Ask for Help!
Introduce the lesson by displaying the title slide. Briefly introduce the topic of feelings and support.
What Do You See?
Look closely at the picture.
What emotions do you notice?
What might be happening?
Display Image 4A. Ask students to observe and share what they see. Guide them to focus on the child's emotions and potential reasons for them.
Meet Kyra: Someone Like You
We're going to read a story about Kyra, a fourth grader.
Her experiences might be very similar to your own life!
Most fourth graders have:
* Friends, family, and loved ones
* Favorite activities and school subjects
* Ups and downs in life
Introduce Kyra's story. Explain that many fourth graders share similar experiences with friends, family, and activities.
Kyra's Feelings
After reading Kyra's story, let's answer this question:
What is Kyra feeling and why?
* She feels upset and angry about her parents.
* She feels sad and worried about her grandfather.
Direct students to answer Question 1 from the reading. Facilitate a discussion about Kyra's strong feelings.
Strong vs. Troublesome Feelings
Strong feelings (like sadness or anger) are normal.
Everyone has them, especially when facing changes or losses.
But sometimes strong feelings can become troublesome.
This means they might cause problems if you don't get help.
What signals show Kyra's feelings are troublesome?
* Felt sad and angry for a while
* Changed eating habits
* Staying away from friends and school
* Sleeping a lot
Explain that strong feelings are normal, but can become troublesome. Discuss the signals that Kyra's feelings have become troublesome.
Why Hide Feelings? Who Notices?
Why might Kyra be hiding her feelings?
* Embarrassment or confusion
* Doesn't want questions
* Doesn't know how or whom to ask for help
Who might notice Kyra needs help?
* Family
* Friends
* Teachers
The most important person to notice is Kyra herself!
Discuss why Kyra might be hiding her feelings and who might notice she needs help. Emphasize that Kyra herself is the most important person to notice.
Ask for Help!
No one knows better than you when something’s wrong.
If you need help, try to ask for it!
Based on the story, What should Kyra do and why?
Key Takeaway: Talk to a parent or other trusted adult.
Display Image 4B and reinforce the message about asking for help. Guide students to answer Question 2 about what Kyra should do.
Talking About Troublesome Feelings
It's very important to talk about troublesome feelings with a parent or other trusted adult.
* Feelings are a natural part of life.
* Helping each other be safe and healthy is important.
* If a friend or family member needs help, tell a trusted adult.
(Remember: Your school counselor is a great resource!)
Summarize the importance of talking to trusted adults and mentioning school counselors if applicable.
What is Personal Support?
What does this word say?
SUPPORT
Giving support means:
* Being there for someone
* Offering help, comfort, advice
* Giving confidence or courage
* Sometimes just listening
Personal Support means you know people you can call on for help when you need it.
Display Image 4C and define 'support' and 'personal support'.
Signals You Need Support
Everyone has tough times in life, and everyone should have personal support.
You don't have to go through tough times by yourself.
Signals that you might need help can come in many forms:
* Thoughts
* Feelings
* Actions
Display Image 4D and explain that signals for needing help can be thoughts, feelings, or actions.
Activity
Image 4A: Worried Child
(An image of a young girl, perhaps 8-10 years old, with a worried, sad, or angry expression. Her body language might suggest distress, such as slumped shoulders or hands clenched.)
Teacher Note: This image is meant to be a visual prompt to initiate discussion about strong feelings.
Activity
Image 4B: Ask for Help
(An image depicting a child reaching out to a trusted adult, or a thought bubble above a child's head with a question mark or a speech bubble saying "Help?")
Teacher Note: This image reinforces the idea that it's okay and important to ask for help.
Activity
Image 4C: Support
(An image showing a diverse group of people (children and adults) standing together or holding hands, symbolizing community and mutual assistance. The word "SUPPORT" is prominently displayed.)
Teacher Note: This image introduces the concept of support and personal networks.
Activity
Image 4D: Signals for Help
(An image illustrating various non-verbal cues or symbols representing thoughts, feelings, and actions that might signal a need for help. For example, a thought bubble with confused expressions, a face showing sadness, or a child withdrawing.)
Teacher Note: This image helps students visually understand the different ways a need for help can manifest.
Reading
Kyra–Someone Like You
Kyra is a fourth grader who loves playing soccer with her friends, especially at recess. She's also really good at math and enjoys helping her classmates understand tricky problems.
Lately, things at home have been tough. Her parents have been arguing a lot, and sometimes they don't even talk to each other. Kyra often hears hushed voices after she's supposed to be asleep. This makes her feel a knot in her stomach, and sometimes she just wants to scream.
To make things even harder, her grandpa, who she loves very much and always tells her funny stories, is in the hospital. He's been there for a few weeks, and Kyra misses their weekly visits. She's worried about him, and it makes her sad when she thinks about him being all alone.
Because of all this, Kyra hasn't felt like herself. She used to love eating her mom's homemade cookies after school, but now she barely touches them. Her best friend, Maya, tried to get her to play soccer during recess, but Kyra just wanted to sit by herself and draw. She's also been going to bed much earlier, sometimes even before her parents tell her to, and she sleeps a lot more than she used to.
She knows something is wrong, but she doesn't want to talk to anyone. She feels embarrassed and confused by all these strong feelings. What if someone asks her questions she doesn't want to answer? What if they can't help?
Questions:
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What is Kyra feeling and why?
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What should Kyra do and why?
Worksheet
My Support Network
It's important to know who you can turn to when you have strong or troublesome feelings.
Part 1: Who's in Your Network?
Think about the trusted adults and friends in your life. Write down their names in the categories below. You can have more than one person in each category!
Family Members (e.g., parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, older sibling):
School Staff (e.g., teacher, counselor, principal, coach):
Other Trusted Adults (e.g., neighbor, religious leader, family friend):
Friends (people your age who you trust and can talk to):
Part 2: Reaching Out
Imagine you are having a really tough day and your feelings are becoming troublesome. Look at your support network above.
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Who would be the first person you would try to talk to?
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Why would you choose this person?
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What are some ways you could reach out to them (e.g., talk in person, call, text, write a note)?
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What would you say or do if the first person wasn't available or couldn't help right away?