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De-Escalation Bingo

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Lesson Plan

Bingo Gameplay Plan

Participants will reinforce recall of trauma-informed de-escalation strategies by playing a collaborative bingo game, then reflect on applying these moves in real scenarios.

Active engagement through game play strengthens advisors’ confidence in using de-escalation moves under pressure. This playful practice boosts retention, promotes teamwork, and fosters smoother school climates.

Audience

Middle School Advisors

Time

30 minutes

Approach

Interactive bingo rounds paired with group discussion and reflection.

Materials

Prep

Prepare Materials

10 minutes

Step 1

Introduction & Rules

5 minutes

  • Welcome participants and state the session objective
  • Briefly review key de-escalation strategies using the slide deck
  • Explain bingo rules: listen to scenario or move prompts, mark matching moves on cards; first to bingo shares insights

Step 2

Gameplay

15 minutes

  • Divide into groups of 3–4 and distribute cards and markers
  • Teacher reads aloud strategy descriptions or real-world adult/student interaction scenarios
  • Participants mark moves on their cards and strive to complete a row, column, or diagonal
  • When someone calls “Bingo,” pause game and invite them to explain how each marked move applies

Step 3

Debrief

5 minutes

  • Ask winning group(s) to share reflections on the moves they called
  • Facilitate a brief discussion on any moves that felt unfamiliar or challenging
  • Reinforce correct application with examples from the slide deck

Step 4

Individual Reflection

5 minutes

  • Have each advisor jot down one strategy they’ll prioritize incorporating into their advising practice
  • Invite volunteers to share their action step and offer peer feedback
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Slide Deck

De-Escalation Moves Overview

A rapid reference for trauma-informed strategies to calm and support students in tense moments.

Welcome participants and orient them to this quick-reference guide. Explain that these key moves will be the focus during the Bingo game.

What Is Trauma-Informed De-Escalation?

• An approach grounded in understanding how trauma affects behavior
• Uses empathy, safety, and choice to reduce tension
• Seeks to build trust and collaboration

Define trauma-informed de-escalation. Emphasize the importance of empathy, safety, and collaboration over control.

Move #1: Calm Body Language

• Maintain open posture (arms uncrossed)
• Use soft, deliberate gestures
• Keep voice steady and gentle
Example: Hands relaxed at sides, slow breathing

Model an open, relaxed posture and steady tone. Invite a volunteer to mirror the stance.

Move #2: Active Listening

• Use eye contact and nodding
• Reflect and summarize student’s words
• Ask clarifying questions
Example: “It sounds like you’re upset because…”

Demonstrate a reflective listening exchange. Highlight summarizing what you hear.

Move #3: Offer Choices & Collaboration

• Present limited, reasonable options
• Involve the student in deciding next steps
Example: “Would you prefer to talk now or take a short break?”

Explain how offering choices restores a sense of control. Role-play a choices scenario.

Move #4: Validate Feelings

• Acknowledge emotions without judgment
• Use empathetic statements
Example: “I can see that this is really frustrating for you.”

Stress genuine acknowledgment of feelings. Provide sentence stems for practice.

Move #5: Ensure Safety & Support

• Assess the physical environment for safety
• Offer assistance or a pause
Example: “Let’s step outside for a moment if you’d like.”

Discuss creating a safe environment. Suggest strategies for calming the space.

Move #6: Collaborative Problem-Solving

• Brainstorm solutions together
• Choose an agreed-upon action plan
Example: “What would help you feel heard right now?”

Outline steps for co-creating solutions. Emphasize follow-through on agreements.

Quick Reference Summary

Calm Body Language | Active Listening | Offer Choices | Validate Feelings | Ensure Safety & Support | Collaborative Problem-Solving

Point out that this slide can be printed or displayed during the Bingo game for quick recall.

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Worksheet

De-Escalation Bingo Cards

Use these cards with markers as outlined in Bingo Gameplay Plan. Call out strategy names or read scenario prompts from the teacher; players mark the matching square. First to bingo shares their insights and examples, referring back to the quick-reference in De-Escalation Moves Overview.


Bingo Card 1

Calm Body LanguageStudent speaks softly but avoids eye contactActive ListeningValidate FeelingsEnsure Safety & Support
You say, “It seems like you’re feeling upset.”Offer Choices & CollaborationCollaborative Problem-SolvingSuggest stepping outside for a momentSummarize: “So you’re feeling overwhelmed because…”
Pause and nod while the student is talkingProvide limited options for next stepsFREE SPACECheck the hallway is clear and safeBrainstorm together: “What might help right now?”
You ask, “Can you tell me what happened?”Validate FeelingsYou offer: “Would you prefer to talk now or take a break?”Active ListeningOpen palms and stand relaxed
Collaborative Problem-SolvingCalm Body LanguageA student raises their voice in frustrationOffer Choices & CollaborationEnsure Safety & Support

Bingo Card 2

Summarize: “So you’re feeling overwhelmed because…”Collaborative Problem-SolvingStudent speaks softly but avoids eye contactEnsure Safety & SupportOffer Choices & Collaboration
Active ListeningCheck the hallway is clear and safeValidate FeelingsYou ask, “Can you tell me what happened?”Pause and nod while the student is talking
Provide limited options for next stepsFREE SPACECalm Body LanguageSuggest stepping outside for a momentYou say, “It seems like you’re feeling upset.”
Brainstorm together: “What might help right now?”You offer: “Would you prefer to talk now or take a break?”Active ListeningA student raises their voice in frustrationValidate Feelings
Calm Body LanguageOffer Choices & CollaborationCollaborative Problem-SolvingOpen palms and stand relaxedEnsure Safety & Support

Bingo Card 3

You ask, “Can you tell me what happened?”Offer Choices & CollaborationSummarize: “So you’re feeling overwhelmed because…”Calm Body LanguageCollaborative Problem-Solving
Suggest stepping outside for a momentValidate FeelingsPause and nod while the student is talkingEnsure Safety & SupportYou offer: “Would you prefer to talk now or take a break?”
Provide limited options for next stepsStudent speaks softly but avoids eye contactFREE SPACEValidate FeelingsActive Listening
A student raises their voice in frustrationOpen palms and stand relaxedBrainstorm together: “What might help right now?”Offer Choices & CollaborationCalm Body Language
Active ListeningYou say, “It seems like you’re feeling upset.”Collaborative Problem-SolvingCheck the hallway is clear and safeEnsure Safety & Support

Reflection Questions

  1. Which de-escalation move or scenario square was easiest for you to recognize during the game, and why?





  2. Which move or scenario felt most challenging, and what might help you get more comfortable with it?





  3. Identify one strategy from today’s game that you will prioritize using in your next advising interaction. Describe a brief action plan for applying it.





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