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Conflict? Solved!

Lesson Plan

Conflict Resolution Roadmap

Equip adult participants with practical de-escalation and conflict resolution skills through guided interactions and feedback, promoting cooperative problem-solving in real-world scenarios.

Workplace and community conflicts reduce trust and productivity. This session builds learners’ confidence in defusing tension, bridging differences, and collaborating effectively under Tier 2 group support.

Audience

Adult Group

Time

60 minutes

Approach

Interactive scenarios with guided debrief and peer feedback.

Prep

Prepare Session Materials

15 minutes

Step 1

Introduction & Objectives

10 minutes

  • Welcome participants and outline session goals
  • Discuss the impact of unresolved conflict on teams and communities
  • Present the learning agenda: de-escalation tactics, practice scenarios, peer feedback, and personal action planning

Step 2

Review De-Escalation Tactics

10 minutes

  • Present key concepts using the De-Escalation Tactics Slide Deck
  • Highlight verbal and nonverbal strategies: active listening, tone moderation, neutral body language
  • Facilitate a brief Q&A to clarify each tactic

Step 3

Scenario Role-Plays

20 minutes

  • Divide participants into small groups and assign roles: actor, responder, observer
  • Distribute scenarios from Scenario Role-Plays
  • Participants enact each scenario for 5 minutes while observers use the Resolution Skills Checklist
  • Rotate roles so everyone practices as responder at least once

Step 4

Peer Feedback Forum

10 minutes

  • Reconvene in the full group and invite each small group to share observations
  • Use the Peer Feedback Forum guidelines to structure constructive feedback
  • Encourage noting specific behaviors and tactics that worked well

Step 5

Reflection & Next Steps

10 minutes

  • Lead a group reflection on lessons learned and personal insights
  • Ask participants to identify one tactic they will apply in their work setting
  • Distribute remaining Resolution Skills Checklist as a personal reference
  • Close by summarizing key takeaways and suggesting follow-up practice opportunities
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Slide Deck

De-Escalation Tactics

Strategies to defuse tension, foster understanding, and resolve conflicts constructively.

Welcome participants to the De-Escalation Tactics module. Emphasize the importance of these skills in reducing tension and building collaborative relationships.

Learning Objectives

• Understand key principles of de-escalation
• Practice verbal and nonverbal strategies
• Apply tactics in real-life scenarios
• Reflect and plan next steps

Review what participants will achieve today. Clarify expectations and how these tactics apply to their work or community settings.

Key Definitions

• Conflict: A disagreement over values, interests, or needs
• De-Escalation: Techniques to reduce intensity and calm parties
• Trigger: A stimulus that intensifies emotional or confrontational response

Define core terms to ensure a shared understanding. Invite questions if any concept is unclear.

Tactic #1: Active Listening

• Give full attention: face the speaker, maintain eye contact
• Paraphrase: “So you’re saying…”
• Ask open-ended questions

Introduce the first tactic—active listening. Demonstrate or role-play briefly if time permits.

Tactic #2: Calm Tone & Pace

• Speak softly and steadily
• Slow down your rate of speech
• Pause to let the other person process

Show how tone and pace influence interaction. Encourage participants to practice varying their vocal delivery.

Tactic #3: Neutral Body Language

• Relaxed posture: arms uncrossed, shoulders down
• Maintain an appropriate distance
• Use open gestures

Demonstrate neutral, open posture and appropriate space. You may ask for a volunteer to model with you.

Tactic #4: Empathy & Validation

• Acknowledge feelings: “I understand this matters to you”
• Validate experience: “It makes sense you feel upset”
• Avoid judgmental language

Explain the power of empathy. Highlight that validation doesn’t mean agreement but shows respect.

Example Scenarios

  1. Angry customer upset about a delayed shipment
  2. Team member frustrated by missed deadlines
  3. Neighbor dispute over shared resources

Note which tactics you’d use and why.

Provide concrete examples to illustrate how multiple tactics can combine.

Play a brief video example (2–3 minutes) demonstrating a successful de-escalation in a workplace setting. Encourage participants to note the tactics used.

Summary & Next Steps

• Active Listening
• Calm Tone & Pace
• Neutral Body Language
• Empathy & Validation

Next: practice in small groups using scenario role-plays.

Recap the four tactics. Prepare participants for the upcoming role-play exercises and peer feedback.

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Activity

Scenario Role-Plays Activity

In this activity, participants practice de-escalation tactics by enacting realistic conflict scenarios in small groups, rotating roles as actor, responder, and observer.

Setup

Instructions

  1. Each role-play lasts 5 minutes:
    • 2 minutes for the Actor to present the conflict
    • 2 minutes for the Responder to apply de-escalation tactics
    • 1 minute for the Observer to give feedback
  2. Rotate roles so that everyone serves as Responder at least once.

Scenarios

1. Team Project Disagreement

Background: Two colleagues on a deadline-driven project disagree about task responsibilities. The actor feels their contributions are undervalued.

  • Actor: Express frustration about uneven workload and missed contributions.
  • Responder: Use active listening, calm tone, and empathy to defuse tension and propose a collaborative plan.
  • Observer: Note which tactics you see on the Resolution Skills Checklist.

2. Customer Service Complaint

Background: A customer is upset about a defective product and demands a refund. The actor feels inconvenienced and wants the issue resolved immediately.

  • Actor: Voice the complaint loudly, emphasize inconvenience and dissatisfaction.
  • Responder: Demonstrate calm body language, validate feelings, and offer practical solutions.
  • Observer: Monitor the use of de-escalation strategies on the checklist.

3. Neighbor Noise Dispute

Background: A neighbor has been playing loud music late at night for several evenings. The actor is sleepless and annoyed.

  • Actor: Confront the neighbor about the noise, expressing anger and tiredness.
  • Responder: Apply neutral body language, empathize with the concern, and suggest a compromise.
  • Observer: Use the checklist to identify effective de-escalation tactics.
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Discussion

Peer Feedback Forum

Purpose

This forum gives participants a chance to share observations, celebrate successes, and identify growth areas based on the Resolution Skills Checklist. Constructive feedback strengthens de-escalation skills by highlighting real examples.

Guidelines for Giving Feedback

  • Be Specific: Reference exact behaviors or words you observed.
  • Use “I” Statements: e.g., “I noticed you paused before responding, and that helped…”.
  • Focus on Tactics: Relate feedback to the four de-escalation strategies.
  • Balance Strengths & Suggestions: Note what worked well and offer one improvement.
  • Respectful Tone: Encourage, not criticize.

Process (10 minutes)

  1. Select one group to share their scenario summary (1 minute).
  2. The Responder briefly describes the tactics they used (1 minute).
  3. The Observer shares two highlights from the Resolution Skills Checklist (1 minute).
  4. Peers ask clarifying questions and offer feedback following the guidelines (2 minutes).
  5. Repeat for 2–3 groups depending on time.

Discussion Prompts

  1. Which de-escalation tactic was most effective in your role-play, and why?





  2. What is one change you could make next time to strengthen your response?





  3. How did the timing and tone of your delivery influence the outcome?





  4. As an Observer, what surprised you about how the tactics were applied?





  5. How will you integrate one of these tactics into a real-life conflict this week?










Follow-Up

Encourage participants to jot down personal action steps using the remaining Resolution Skills Checklist.


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Rubric

Resolution Skills Checklist

Use this rubric to observe and rate each de-escalation tactic during role-plays. Circle the rating (1–4) and add specific notes.

Skill1 – Needs Improvement2 – Developing3 – Proficient4 – ExemplaryObserver Notes
Active ListeningRarely listens fully; interrupts; minimal eye contact.Sometimes pauses or paraphrases but inconsistently follows up.Regularly paraphrases, asks open questions, maintains eye contact.Fully attentive: paraphrases, probes, and encourages speaker share.
Calm Tone & PaceVoice is hurried or sharp, may amplify tension.Attempts to slow down, but tone still uneven or rushed at times.Generally calm, moderate pace; uses pauses to allow processing.Consistently soft, measured tone with well-timed pauses.
Neutral Body LanguageClosed posture (arms crossed), avoids eye contact.Sometimes uses open gestures but reverts to closed stance.Maintains relaxed posture, open gestures, and appropriate distance.Fully open posture: nods, mirroring, stable eye contact.
Empathy & ValidationDismisses or minimizes feelings; uses judgmental language.Acknowledges feelings unevenly; some validation but occasional judgment.Consistently acknowledges and validates feelings without judgment.Deep empathy: affirms emotions and builds trust; de-escalates naturally.

Participants can jot additional observations or action items in the Notes column.

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