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Why Do I Do That Before I Think?

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Lesson Plan

Impulse Explained Counseling Session Plan

The student will understand the basic neuroscience behind their own impulsive behaviors and learn to identify common triggers for their personal impulses. They will also begin to develop strategies for pausing and making more thoughtful choices in specific situations.

Understanding why one sometimes acts without thinking is crucial for personal growth and making positive decisions. This session helps the student gain self-awareness and practical tools for better self-control, leading to improved relationships and academic success.

Audience

Individual 6th Grader

Time

50 minutes

Approach

Confidential discussion, visual aids, and personalized self-reflection activities.

Prep

Preparation

15 minutes

Step 1

Warm-Up: My Quick Reactions

5 minutes

  1. Begin by asking the student: "Can you think of a time recently when you did something quickly without really thinking, and maybe afterwards, you wished you had paused?" (e.g., blurting out an answer, reacting quickly to a friend).
    2. Emphasize that this is a safe, non-judgmental space and everyone experiences such moments. Share a brief, personal, relatable example if comfortable, to build rapport.

Step 2

Introduction to the Brain's Fast Lane (Visuals)

10 minutes

  1. Introduce the session topic: understanding why we sometimes act before we think.
    2. Use The Brain's Fast Lane Visuals to explain the concepts of the 'fast brain' (amygdala/limbic system for emotions/instincts) and the 'slow brain' (prefrontal cortex for planning/decision-making).
    3. Explain how impulses happen when the 'fast brain' takes over and how we can learn to engage the 'slow brain'.

Step 3

Exploring My Impulse Triggers

10 minutes

  1. Using visuals from The Brain's Fast Lane Visuals, discuss common impulse triggers (e.g., strong emotions, peer pressure, boredom, hunger, stress).
    2. Guide the student to identify their personal triggers. Ask: "What situations or feelings make you most likely to act impulsively?" Listen actively and help them explore these connections.

Step 4

My Impulse Moment Reflection

15 minutes

  1. Introduce the My Impulse Moment Reflection Guide.
    2. Facilitate a guided reflection using the prompts. Encourage the student to share a specific time they experienced an impulse and what they observed or learned from it. This is a confidential space to process these experiences.
    3. Emphasize that reflecting on these moments is a powerful step towards gaining control and making different choices in the future.

Step 5

Activity: My Personal Trigger Tracker

8 minutes

  1. Introduce the My Personal Trigger Tracker Activity.
    2. Explain that the student will identify one common trigger they want to work on and brainstorm one specific strategy to pause before reacting.
    3. Work through the sheet together, offering guidance and support as they articulate their trigger and choose a strategy.
    4. Discuss how they can apply this strategy in their daily life.

Step 6

Cool-Down: My Next Step

2 minutes

  1. Ask the student to share one new insight they gained about their impulse control or one specific strategy they commit to trying before our next session.
    2. Conclude by reiterating that self-control is a skill that develops with awareness, practice, and support.
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Slide Deck

Why Do I Do That Before I Think?

Ever wonder why you sometimes act before you have a chance to stop yourself? Today, we're going to explore the science behind those "instant reactions" and how to gain more control!

Welcome the student warmly. Start by setting a comfortable, confidential tone. Say something like, "Thanks for coming today. We're going to talk about something super interesting that helps us understand ourselves better: why we sometimes do things before we even have a chance to think about them." Connect to the warm-up question from the session plan: "Remember how we talked about quick reactions? We'll dive into the science behind that today, and learn how you can gain more control!"

Meet Your Brain: Fast Lane vs. Slow Lane

Your brain has two main ways of responding:

  • The Fast Lane (Limbic System/Amygdala): This part acts super quickly, like a reflex! It's great for emergencies but can also make us act on impulse.
  • The Slow Lane (Prefrontal Cortex): This part is for careful thinking, planning, and making smart decisions. It takes a little longer to get going.

Introduce the idea of the 'Fast Lane' and 'Slow Lane' parts of the brain. "Think of your brain like a car with two different lanes. One is super fast, for when you need to react instantly. The other is a bit slower, for when you need to think things through carefully." Explain the limbic system/amygdala as the 'Fast Lane' (emotions, instincts) and the prefrontal cortex as the 'Slow Lane' (planning, smart decisions). Emphasize that both are important.

What's an Impulse?

An impulse is when your "Fast Lane" brain takes over and you act without much thought.

It's like:

  • Blurting out an answer before raising your hand.
  • Grabbing the last cookie without asking.
  • Reacting quickly when someone teases you.

Everyone experiences impulses!

Define impulse in simple terms, relating it back to the 'Fast Lane' taking over. "So, an impulse is when your brain's Fast Lane takes charge, and you do something without much time to think." Provide simple, non-judgmental examples and ask the student if these resonate: "Have you ever blurted something out, or grabbed something quickly without thinking? It's a totally normal brain response!"

What Kicks Your Fast Lane Into High Gear? (Impulse Triggers)

What makes your "Fast Lane" brain take over?

  • Strong Emotions: Anger, excitement, frustration, fear.
  • Peer Pressure: Wanting to fit in or respond to friends quickly.
  • Boredom: Doing something just because you have nothing else to do.
  • Stress or Tiredness: When your "Slow Lane" brain is worn out.
  • Habit: Doing the same thing without thinking.

Guide the student in identifying their personal impulse triggers. "What kind of situations or feelings tend to make your Fast Lane kick into high gear?" Offer the examples on the slide (strong emotions, peer pressure, boredom, stress, tiredness, habit) as starting points, but encourage them to think of their own. Write down their ideas on paper or a whiteboard to visualize their patterns.

Reflecting on My Impulse Moments

Thinking about times we acted impulsively can help us learn and grow.

In our next activity, we'll reflect on your "Impulse Moments" and think about what happened and what you learned.

Transition to the personal reflection activity. "Now that we know about the Fast and Slow Lanes, let's think about a time you experienced an impulse. This is a safe space to talk about it, and reflecting helps us learn." Introduce the next activity as a way to think deeper about these moments. Reassure them that it's about learning, not judgment.

Activating Your Slow Lane: The Power of the Pause

The good news is you can learn to switch to your "Slow Lane" brain more often!

The secret? The PAUSE.

  • Pause: Take a deep breath.
  • Ask: "What am I about to do? What might happen?"
  • See: Imagine the choices and outcomes.
  • Execute: Choose your thoughtful action.

This gives your thinking brain a chance to catch up!

Introduce the 'PAUSE' strategy as a way to intentionally engage the 'Slow Lane.' "The great news is you have the power to slow down your Fast Lane and let your Slow Lane catch up! We call it the PAUSE." Go through each letter (Pause, Ask, See, Execute), explaining what it means and how it can be applied. Have the student practice taking a deep breath.

Your Challenge: Track Your Triggers!

Now it's your turn to be a brain detective!

  • Think about a common impulse trigger you experience.
  • Brainstorm ONE strategy you can use to PAUSE before reacting impulsively next time.

This challenge will help you build your impulse control skills!

Introduce the personal 'Trigger Tracker' activity. "Now, we're going to put this into practice just for you. We'll identify one specific trigger you want to work on, and then brainstorm one new way you can PAUSE when that trigger happens." Explain that this is a personal tool to build their skills.

One Step at a Time

Learning to control impulses takes practice, just like any other skill.

Every time you pause and make a thoughtful choice, you're making your "Slow Lane" brain stronger!

Conclude by empowering the student. "Learning to control impulses is like building a muscle – it takes practice. Every time you try to pause and make a thoughtful choice, you're making your Slow Lane brain stronger, and that's a huge step forward." Ask for their one takeaway or strategy they will try. Offer encouragement for their effort.

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Discussion

My Impulse Moment Reflection

Sometimes we act without thinking, and that's okay! Today, in this safe space, we're going to reflect on some of those moments to help you understand your brain better and learn from your experiences.

Reflection Questions:

  1. Can you think of a time when you acted quickly, almost without thinking, and it didn't turn out quite how you wanted? (It could be something small, like blurting out an answer, or a quick reaction to something someone said.)










  2. What was the situation? What was happening right before you acted impulsively?










  3. What emotions were you feeling in that moment? (e.g., excited, angry, frustrated, impatient, scared)






  4. If you could hit a "pause" button in that moment, what might you have done differently?










  5. What did you learn from that experience about yourself or about managing impulses?











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Activity

My Personal Trigger Tracker Activity

Name: ____________________________
Date: ____________________________

We all have things that can make our "Fast Lane" brain want to take over. This activity will help you become a detective of your own brain, with my support!

Part 1: My Impulse Trigger

Think about a recent time you acted impulsively, or a common situation where you tend to act without thinking. What was the trigger for you?

  • What was the situation or feeling that made me want to react quickly? (e.g., someone teased me, I felt really excited, I was bored, I was frustrated with homework, I was hungry, I saw something I really wanted)










  • What was my impulsive action? (e.g., I yelled, I grabbed it, I blurted something out, I interrupted)










Part 2: My Pause Strategy

Now, let's think about how you can use the POWER OF THE PAUSE to engage your "Slow Lane" brain next time you face this specific trigger. What is ONE specific thing you can do to give yourself a moment to think?

  • My chosen "Pause" strategy: (e.g., Take 3 deep breaths, Count to 5 in my head, Imagine the consequence, Walk away for a moment, Ask myself: "Is this helpful?")










  • How will this strategy help me make a more thoughtful choice?










Self-Reflection Check-in:

  • On a scale of 1-5, how confident are you that you can try this strategy next time? (1 = Not at all, 5 = Very confident)
    1      2      3      4      5

  • What is one challenge you might face when trying to use your pause strategy?







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