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Navigating Social Dynamics

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Discussion

Friendship & Boundaries Discussion Guide

Instructions: In your small groups, read each scenario. Discuss how the individuals involved could best navigate the situation, focusing on healthy communication and setting clear boundaries. Be prepared to share your thoughts with the class.

Scenario 1: The Constant Complainer

Your friend, Alex, calls you almost every day after school to complain about their day. While you care about Alex, you often feel drained and overwhelmed by their negativity. You also have your own homework and activities you need to do. Recently, you've started avoiding their calls.

Discussion Questions:

  • What kind of boundary might be helpful here?


  • How could you communicate this boundary to Alex kindly but firmly?


  • What are the potential benefits of setting this boundary for both you and Alex?


Scenario 2: The Group Project Pressure

You are working on a group project with two other classmates, Sam and Jamie. Sam is not pulling their weight, often missing deadlines and not contributing during meetings. Jamie is getting frustrated and wants to just do all the work themselves, but you feel that's unfair.

Discussion Questions:

  • What boundaries need to be established within this group?


  • How can you approach Sam to discuss their lack of contribution?


  • What steps can the group take to ensure everyone contributes fairly?


Scenario 3: The Borrowed Item

Your friend, Taylor, frequently borrows your things (clothes, chargers, books) without asking and sometimes returns them damaged or not at all. You feel uncomfortable confronting them because you don't want to cause tension in your friendship.

Discussion Questions:

  • What is the core boundary issue in this scenario?


  • How could you express your feelings and set a new expectation with Taylor?


  • What are some ways to prevent this situation from happening again in the future?


Scenario 4: The Secret Keeper

A new friend, Chris, tells you a secret about another classmate and asks you to promise not to tell anyone. Later, you find out the 'secret' is actually a rumor that is untrue and potentially harmful to the other classmate. You feel conflicted about keeping the promise.

Discussion Questions:

  • What ethical boundaries are being tested in this situation?


  • What is the responsibility of a good friend in this scenario?


  • How could you navigate this situation while upholding your values and potentially addressing Chris's behavior?


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Worksheet

Healthy Relationships Worksheet: My Friendships and My Boundaries

Instructions: Reflect on your own social dynamics, friendships, and personal boundaries. Answer the questions honestly for your personal growth. You will not be required to share your answers.

Part 1: My Friendships

  1. Think about one of your close friendships. What are 3 qualities that make this friendship feel healthy and supportive?





  2. Describe a time in a friendship when communication was challenging. How did you handle it, or how might you handle it differently now?










  3. What is one way you can be a better friend to someone?





Part 2: My Boundaries

  1. In your own words, what is a personal boundary and why is it important to you?










  2. Think about a situation where you felt uncomfortable, drained, or disrespected by someone (it could be a friend, family member, or acquaintance). What boundary could have helped in that situation?











  3. Identify one area in your life where you would like to set a clearer personal boundary. (Examples: time, sharing personal information, lending items, emotional support).


  4. How could you clearly and kindly communicate this new boundary to the person or people involved?










Part 3: Moving Forward

  1. What is one new strategy or idea from today's lesson that you will try to use in your social interactions?





  2. How do you think setting healthier boundaries will impact your overall well-being?










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